In life, you don't get instant satisfaction. In life, you get to slog. You work. You grow. You take the long view. You fill the void with self-actual….

Mature people must find their own ways to cope with their own temptations..

You cannot tie your fiance to the railroad track of self-reflection and personal improvement..

People who are combative in one relationship tend to be combative in other relationships..

If you miss one moment of enjoying your own life and relationships because you're trying to punish someone else, the bad guy wins..

Single parenthood is hard, but it's simple too. You just do everything yourself..

The ability to break a loved one's heart is the essential contradiction in human relationships..

Needy and boring parents tend to have needy and bored children..

If you feel guilty about not "playing nice," then you could easily alleviate your guilt by playing nice..

Being alone is almost always preferable to being with the wrong person..

Life is both short and complicated. People sometimes make baffling choices..

Unsolicited advice is always self-serving..

The fullness of life is incubated in its messy places..

He sounds like someone who might best be loved from a distance..

Healthy boundaries are important, but you may be building a brick wall when a picket fence would do..

Marriage is an intimate relationship between two people. It is a bad idea to involve a third party..

Your job in life is to look after yourself and to find ways to get what you need - emotionally and otherwise - so that you live your best possible li….

When you are criticizing someone, you should speak only to your own experience - not others'..

Almost any group of three is going to form a triangle, with two points closer to one another..

[from a reader] Whenever I feel myself resenting someone, I reach out. I have made good friends that way..

Groveling for connection from someone who compares you to Hitler is not good for a person's self-esteem..