Whatever we can't love or accept in another, is a mirror of something we can't love or accept in ourselves..

What we pay attention to expands. What we pay attention to we become..

From the Zen view all beings are in the grip of the three poisons, greed, anger and delusion (ignorance)..

When we are in a truly loving relationship, we receive the gift of being known and accepted. We become more, not less, of who we are. We receive the ….

When we do not reject our suffering, or add anything to it, pain is simply pain. It is what we add to our pain that turns it into suffering..

When we are willing to accept our experience, just as it is, a strange thing happens: it changes into something else. When we avoid pain, struggle no….

Do not make this practice a source of pressure, compulsion, anxiety or pride. It is none of these. Zazen is simply a way to find your true home..

What seems good turns bad, what seems bad turns good. It is an endless cycle..

Relying on another is an expression of attachment, not love, a manifestation of insecurity and suffering, not understanding the true nature of our li….

We create a mask to meet the masks of others. Then we wonder why we cannot love, and why we feel so alone..

This is how we know we are in a loving relationship. We are blooming, and the one we love is blooming as well..

Another simple and powerful way to dissolve problems is not to dwell upon the outcome of your actions. Instead, learn to value each action (no matte….

In the Zen Way we focus upon each breath, each day, each moment and experience it totally. One complete breath brings the next..

When we sit, we open our own treasure house. Rather than do this, however, most of us first seek to find the treasures another person can provide. We….

Consider for a moment what you pay attention to all day long. What seems important to you, what do you take for granted and hardly attend to at all? ….

Now today, moment by moment, realize that each person and event that happens is life for you. Life is not somewhere else. See how fully you can accep….

we learn the process of emptying out, cleaning house, both within and without..

All conflict we experience in the world, is a conflict within our own selves..

It is a mistake to expect all of our needs to be met by one person or in one relationship. Honor and be grateful for that which you receive. Don't be….

God's guiding hand, the guiding Voice, resting lightly upon us is best felt and heard when we are silent and still..

The facts of our lives, when we are able to know them, will free us from the torment we are in. When we can bear reality thoroughly, suffering is ove….