Occupation: Psychologist Birth: September 17, 1944
No one seems to have learned, or can remember, the magic words that calm people when they are frightened or threatened: "I'm sorry; I didn't see you;….
Of course, if you photograph the behavior of women and men at a particular time in history, in a particular situation, you will capture differences. ….
[Sexual] fantasies, like children, are most interesting to the people who have them..
History is written by the victors, but it's victims who write the memoirs..
The second-sweetest set of three words in English is 'I don't know.'.
Depression is not 'anger turned inward'; if anything, anger is depression turned outward. Follow the trail of anger inward, and there you will find t….
Many books in popular psychology are a melange of the author's comments, a dollop of research, and stupefyingly dull transcriptions from interviews..
When anger is not trampling roughshod through our nervous system, it is sitting sullenly in some unspecified internal organ. "She's got a lot of ange….
For some of the large indignities of life, the best remedy is direct action. For the small indignities, the best remedy is a Charlie Chaplin movie. ….
In sports as in child rearing, marital arguments, or tantrums, the same laws of learning apply; when an emotion is encouraged and the rules permit it….
Rebels and dissidents challenge the complacent belief in a just world, and, as the theory would predict, they are usually denigrated for their effort….
A fan without a team is like a hog without truffles - she has nothing to root for..
Severe initiations increase a member's liking for the group..
Most people, when directly confronted by evidence that they are wrong, do not change their point of view or course of action but justify it even more….
As in all moral panics, an accusation is enough to destroy a person's life. Hysteria trumps evidence..
Even irrefutable evidence is rarely enough to pierce the mental armor of self-justification..
In the horrifying calculus of self-deception, the greater the pain we inflict on others, the greater the need to justify it to maintain our feelings ….
Doubt is not the enemy of justice; overconfidence is..
The difference between the Japanese and the American is summed up in their opposite reactions to the proverb (popular in both nations), "A rolling st….
The scientific method is designed to help investigators overcome the most entrenched human cognitive habit: the confirmation bias, the tendency to no….
The individualism of American life, to our glory and despair, creates anger and encourages its release; for when everything is possible, limitations ….