Women, I believe, search for fellow beings who have faced similar struggles, conveyed them in ways a reader can transform into her own life, confirme….

Androgyny suggests a spirit of reconciliation between the sexes; it suggests, further, a full range of experience…it suggests a spectrum upon which h….

Is there any vanity greater than the vanity of those who believe themselves without it?.

We cannot guess the outcome of our actions... Which is why our actions must always be acceptable in themselves, and not as strategies..

the term 'androgyny' ... defines a condition under which the characteristics of the sexes, and the human impulses expressed by men and women, are not….

That is the point of quotations. One can use another's words to be insulting..

Professors of literature collect books the way a ship collects barnacles, without seeming effort..

One hires lawyers as on hires plumbers, because one wants to keep one's hands off the beastly drains..

Shifting problems is the first rule for a long and pleasant life..

The compulsion to find a lover and husband in a single person has doomed more women to misery than any other illusion..

The married are those who have taken the terrible risk of intimacy and, having taken it, know life without intimacy to be impossible..

Power is the ability to take one's place in whatever discourse is essential to action and the right to have one's part matter..

What marks a writer is this: until she - or he, of course - writes down whatever happened, turns it into a story, it hasn't really happened, it hasn'….

I don't know why togetherness was ever held up as an ideal of marriage. Away from home for both, then together, that's much better..

Why do long marriages occasionally endow their inhabitants with a rare kind of equilibrium otherwise almost unknown in human relations? My guess is t….

Today's youth seem finally to have understood that only by freeing woman from her exclusively sexual role can man free himself from his ordained role….

As long as women are isolated one from the other, not allowed to offer other women the most personal accounts of their lives, they will not be part o….

Odd, the years it took to learn one simple fact: that the prize just ahead, the next job, publication, love affair, marriage always seemed to hold th….

We women have lived too much with closure: "If he notices me, if I marry him, if I get into college, if I get this work accepted, if I get this job" ….

New York is not like London, a now-and-then place to many people. You can either not live in New York or not live anyplace else. One is either a love….

as the years go on a sense of deep patience comes over one; one seems to know the virtue of ripeness, and the danger of rushing events..