Fathers who compete hard with their kids are monstrous. The father, for a throw-away victory, is sacrificing the very heart of hischild's sense of be….

Fathering makes a man, whatever his standing in the eyes of the world, feel strong and good and important, just as he makes his child feel loved and ….

Marriage, like a submarine, is only safe if you get all the way inside..

Love is not something people feel, but something people try to express no matter how they feel..

The secret to having a good marriage is to understand that marriage must be total, it must be permanent, and it must be equal..

To insult a friend implies that you respect his masculinity enough to know he can take it without acting like a crybaby. The swapping of insults, lik….

The child who would be an adult must give up any lingering childlike sense of parental power, either the magical ability to solveyour problems for yo….

Common courtesy plays a big role in happy marriages. People who are permanently married are polite to one another. They don't want to hurt one anothe….

Happy people learn that happiness, like sweat, is a by-product of activity..

Some parents were awful back then and are awful still. The process of raising you didn't turn them into grown-ups. Parents who were clearly imperfect….

Infidelity flows from a belief that women have the power to make you feel like a man if you only find a woman that thinks you're perfect; if you can….

Fathering is not something perfect men do, but something that perfects the man..

Once women invented farming, and began to keep and breed animals, they discovered the crucial function of the rooster and the henhouse. Fathers sudde….

Fidelity is the single most important element in solidly enduring marriages..

Bad marriages don't cause infidelity; infidelity causes bad marriages..

The more things we can laugh about, the more alive we become: The more things we can laugh about together, the more connected we become..

Our ability to fall in love requires enough comfort with our masculinity to join it with someone's femininity and feel enhanced. .. . If our mother m….

All those tough guys who want to scare the world into seeing them as men . . . who don't know how to be a man with a woman, only abrute or a boy, who….

Marriage isn't supposed to make you happy - it's supposed to make you married..

We long for our father. We wear his clothes, and actually try to fill his shoes. . . . We hang on to him, begging him to teach ushow to do whatever i….

The guys who fear becoming fathers don't understand that fathering is not something perfect men do, but something that perfects the man. The end pro….