Believing that all women should want to be mothers makes about as much sense as believing that all men should want to be engineers..

As many have observed, it is easy to tell a lie, but it is almost impossible to tell only one..

Don't count on the power of your love or your nagging to create something that wasn't there to begin with..

No book or expert can protect us from the range of painful emotions that make us human..

I'm a good example of wanting to apologize only for my precise share of a problem--as I calculate it, of course--and I expect my husband Steve to apo….

Many of our problems with anger occur when we choose between having a relationship and having a self..

The rush of sexual attraction can act like a drug and blur our capacity for clear thinking. This can lead us to distance ourselves from our friends o….

Anger is a tool for change when it challenges us to become more of an expert on the self and less of an expert on others..

The happiest people are focused on living their own life (not someone else's) as well as possible..

Relationships are most likely to fail when we don't address problems or hold our partner accountable for unfair or irresponsible behavior ... the abi….

Nothing you say can ensure that the other person will get it, or respond the way you want. You may never exceed his threshold of deafness..

deception and 'con games' are a way of life in all species and throughout nature. Organisms that do not improve their ability to deceive - and to det….

Intimate relationships cannot substitute for a life plan. But to have any meaning or viability at all, a life plan must include intimate relationship….

The best apology, I think, was from my husband, Steve, who slept with a close friend of mine decades back, when we were committed to being life partn….

We're vulnerable to repeating history, especially if we don't know what's driving us. For example, it may be a family tradition to marry someone with….

We commonly confuse closeness with sameness and view intimacy as the merging of two separate I's into one worldview..

Intensity is not the same as intimacy, although we tend to confuse these two words..

Whatever your sex fantasy is with your partner, consider it normal..

It's true that over-apologizing interrupts the flow of conversation and irritates the person who has to stop and offer reassurance, like, "No, it's f….

It is an act of courage to acknowledge our own uncertainty and sit with it for a while..

If we only listened with the same passion that we feel about being heard..