I know that I was able to find my way out of most of my feelings by writing..

When you're waiting for a bus, the thing to do is smoke a cigarette..

That was one of the problems with the Narcissus figure. Here is a face looking at a face, and the problem is the image of the thing is never actually….

I think sometimes to still be angry is appropriate, but you want to be able to live with it..

I sometimes think that we expect too much resolution in this world..

Sometimes there isn't a way to hug and make everything better..

I was born in Australia and grew up in the foreign services. I had this kind of trans-Pacific life. I think I was always sort of oriented towards her….

In order to have a real life of any romance, there has to be a level of fantasy..

You can sometimes find something good on the other side of doing something very, very painful..

There's a quote that I learned in college a million years ago. "Happy, thought I, is the man who can, in one and the same embrace, hold both his love….

I can't say that fantasy instead of the 3D world is fine or good, but I know in my own life I have certain people I've kind of fixated upon to the po….

I suppose you retire from trying. If you retire from trying, you think, "Maybe love will just come my way if I don't want it anymore.".

There's a lot of water in everything I've ever written. There's always oceans and pools..

Teaching writing puts you on the point of a pin in terms of what you want your own writing to be..

My first memory is on a ship from California back to Sydney. Water is just a natural place of home and not home..

That's what perfect means. You're finished..

I don't think you can have an imagination without having fantasy, and you can't have that rich a life without an imagination..

Early in the phase of being in a female body, there's all this desire that comes at you, a lot of it hostile, a lot of it dangerous, a lot of it ruin….

When you get immersed in whatever you're writing, the world does suddenly get so filtered through what you're writing. And then of course what you're….

I grew up flying over oceans and moving and sailing..

Like a lot of writers, I just got sick to death of conventional fiction. I absolutely couldn't stand the illusion of reality and plot. I just couldn'….