I really don't feel that writing is therapy..

People might seem to have a perfectly fine life but inside, we don't even know if they've suffered..

The birth mother is placing the baby out of love. I still believe that. Well, the ones weve dealt with who were actually pregnant, anyway..

It would be a lie to say that people are coming to adoption with joy at all times. Hope, perhaps, but it would be disingenuous to say that every part….

Idea of the generations continuing is really important. And that's interesting to me. I write about families; I'm interested in families. Even though….

I will say in open adoption, all these choices you make about race, about the amount of mental illness you can deal with, about special needs and phy….

I feel sometimes like a book tour is a slow series of humiliations and that if you're strong you'll come out of it OK..

My first two novels were set in the past, and that freed me up in a lot of ways; it allowed me to find my way into my story and my characters through….

I feel like if writers used writing as therapy we'd have a ton of happy writers..

I want to say that, in general, when it works, open adoption is great..

With domestic adoption, you get a form, you fill it out, and there are these boxes: African-American, African-American and Hispanic, and you check th….

I think we think that parenthood is confined to the country of mothers, but I think a lot of the men I've spoken to and the men who have read my book….

I think publishing's strength is also its weakness. It's got such a rich and celebrated history as an industry. For the most part, publishing people ….

I wanted a baby of color, to be honest, because I wasn't attached to the idea that I look like the biological mother. I liked the idea of the adoptio….

I find I have to touch what I am working on every day, or a deep-seated dread kicks in that is very hard to overcome..

The past always sort of haunts us and perhaps inspires us in some ways..

I couldn't really experience being an author when I was still working in publishing - I was trying to negotiate being both. Sometimes the knowledge d….

I'm a morning person: if I don't get up, put the coffee on and get to my desk by 8, the day has already lost a lot of its promise..

The process of open adoption is not discussed in the way it should be. Everyone I know who has adopted domestically has at least one tragic story. It….

I think that when the world feels safe and secure, we probably feel more that way in our personal lives. What goes on in the world affects us, unequi….

My father is an economist who specialized in foreign food policy, and my mother worked for AID, a branch of the State Department, so food in regards ….