Many people, if they were to treat other people as they treat their spouses, would soon have not a friend in the world. Why it is assumed that marria….

We find what we expect to find. We do not see the world as it is but as we are..

The cruelest affront is treating the person as exactly the person he is. We all long to be understood, but not for what we are. We long to be underst….

The unlived life is not worth examining. ... Self-awareness, self-examination, self-consciousness are for the quiet moments. In the arena they are pa….

You do not need to be loved, not at the cost of yourself. The single relationship that is truly central and crucial in a life is the relationship to ….

Every life is a dilemma that must be solved by the person living it..

There is no way of steering successfully between a failed situation and a failed self except by stopping and taking our bearings..

You do not need to be loved, not at the cost of yourself. Of all the people you will know in the lifetime, you are the only one you will never leave ….

I saw one of the absolute truths of this world: each person is worrying about himself; no one is worrying about you. He or she is worrying about whet….

It is one of those quirks of human nature that you love the person whom you treat well, not necessarily the person who treats you well..

If a man has a sense of identity that does not depend on being shored up by someone else, it cannot be eroded by someone else. If a woman has a sense….

If life is envisioned as a continuously running motion picture, the keeping of a notebook stops the action and allows a meaningful scene to be explor….

At what age should one marry? As a rule of thumb, perhaps not until you are past the age of feeling strongly that you must marry..

The person who conveys, 'I am nothing. Make me something,' may all his life have people trying to answer his hidden plea, but their answer will be in….

Most people ask of their friends that they understand them, but, on balance, I think I prefer a friend who understands himself..

Men fear being used; women fear being used up..

The people trying to change others can conveniently be termed the angry, while the people trying to change themselves might be called the guilty, alt….

It takes an enormous amount of energy, creative energy withdrawn from the total economy of the person, to hold a trait underground, and, unfortunatel….

If you defy the system long enough you'll be rewarded. At first life takes revenge and reduces you to a sniveling mess. But keep sniveling, have the ….

It is rewarding to find someone you like, but it is essential to like yourself. It is quickening to recognize that someone is a good and decent human….

To live with the terrible truths about ourselves is the only way of not living them out. A need denied has infinitely more power than a need accepted..