Separation is not the end of love; it creates love..

Blaming mother is just a negative way of clinging to her still..

After sex, men fear too much intimacy; they want to separate again. Women want to talk, to continue the merging, melting fusion into one. Postcoital ….

The debt of gratitude we owe our mother and father goes forward, not backward. What we owe our parents is the bill presented to us by our children..

To say something nice about themselves, this is the hardest thing in the world for people to do..

Spontaneous love admits errors, hesitations and human failings. It can be tested and repaired..

Do women dress for men or women? I’ve always wondered why that eternally provocative question is put in terms of approval - as if the heart of the ma….

The older I get...the more of my mother I see in myself..

When is enough enough? In envy's eyes, enough never is. Somebody else always has something we want..

If you believe in the maternal instinct and fail at mother love, you fail as a woman. It is a controlling idea that holds us in an iron grip..

All my writing has been an effort to sort out the paradoxes of my life..

Oh, I know all about my mother and me,' you may say. 'All that business with my mother was over years ago.' You don't and it wasn't..

When I stopped seeing my mother with the eyes of a child, I saw the woman who helped me give birth to myself..

In a baby's first months, the earliest patterns of intimacy or distrust are forever grooved into his soul..

If women really want equality, we have to wipe the slate clean. It no longer matters in the largest sense what men did to us for the last 200 or 300 ….

Sexuality is the great field of battle between biology and society..

No man can be really free in bed with a woman who is not..

Fantasy isn't something you run out of..

I think biologically we are attracted to more than one person, but given society and our needs, monogamy works better..

Our culture raises us to seek success but we are not taught how to live with it..

I like the company of men. I've never been welcome in those groups, but then I would no more go to a consciousness-raising group and talk about my in….