The most amazing thing about young men is how invisible they were to you when you were young. It is also the most poignant..

Sports (and the often barely withheld violence around them) have become one of the few modern ways to connect with strangers. They give an amazing nu….

Realize that the banality around us that passes as "hipness" or "mass culture" is as satisfying as "mass food"-only it comes in much more unappetizin….

Realize the complicated specials of what we call the "inferiority complex." In other words, what, Miss Thing, is so damn special about you to make yo….

Ageism is the racism of the gay world. We really believe that age-and all of our fears that it carries-will "rub off" on us, the way that racists onc….

To extend oneself does not necessarily mean to have an erection..

Remember that that "rude awakening" which your parents and well-meaning relatives threatened you with as a kid is better than no awakening at all..

Learn to detest things that do not allow you to be yourself, and embrace things that make that self larger, more thrilling, and voluptuous..

Try to dwell on the people you'd like to love, instead of all the people you do loathe..

The lowest form of barbarism is smugly to berate someone for extending an act of kindness..

We think of death and loss as tragic twins, but in fact it is loss that hurts us..

Hold the door for an old man. Old ladies can take care of themselves; they've been doing it long enough..

I prefer the "tackiest" person in the world to the stylish person who has no tact..

Start a conversation with someone with whom you have "nothing in common" and no possibility of scoring with, networking with, or even seeing again. I….

There are two things in life that money cannot buy: health and happiness. Aside from that, it does an excellent job..

Learn the absolute pleasure of kindness..

Take up something that you know will never bring you any returns except pleasure-in other words, allow yourself to live the way brilliant eighteenth ….

Falling in love with another man is like falling into a vast vat of yourself. For some men this is ultimately nourishing, for others . . . it is drow….

Have hot, wild sex with a friend. Then go out and do something stupid, like bowl, afterwards..

There may be a point in your life in which you are drowning so fast and fighting it so furiously that you don't have the strength left to call out fo….

The most beautiful man in the world says everything with his eyes, and the rest with his hands and mouth..