In the long run we get no more than we have been willing to risk giving..

And so, it is not astonishing that, though the patient enters therapy insisting that he wants to change, more often than not, what he really wants is….

To live without the creative potential of our own destructiveness is to be a cardboard angel..

If I reveal myself without worrying about how others will respond, then some will care, though others may not. But who can love me, if no one knows m….

We all live in a tragicomic situation, a life that is in part absurd simply because it is not of our own making. We are born into a disordered world,….

Love is more than simply being open to experiencing the anguish of another person's suffering. It is the willingness to live with the helpless knowin….

I've never began any important venture for which I felt adequate prepared.

We are all born into families and cultures we didn't choose, given names we didn't pick, instructed in behaviour and values we might not have freely ….

Sometimes life seems like a poorly designed cage within which man has been sentenced to be free..

Often things are as bad as they seem..

Transformations require that we let go of familiar ways of doing things, without yet knowing what we will do next..

He prefers the security of known misery to the misery of unfamiliar insecurity..

The Zen Master warns: 'If you meet the Buddha on the road, kill him!' This admonition points up that no meaning that comes from outside of ourselves ….

If I am transparent enough to myself, then I can become less afraid of those hidden selves that my transparency may reveal to others. If I reveal mys….

The continuing struggle was once described in the following metaphor by a patient who had successfully completed a long course of psychotherapy: 'I c….

That is one of the reasons why a man should pick a path with heart, so that he can find his laughter..

The only times that we can have what we long for are those moments when we stop grasping for it. At such times, all things are possible: "to a mind t….

I remember a group therapy session when one of the patients was reluctantly turning his corner. He would accept it, he said, but he wouldn't like the….

When a patient says he feels stuck and confused, and through good intentions he struggles to become loose and clear, he only remains chronically trap….

Everything good is costly, and the development of the personality is one of the most costly of all things. It will cost you your innocence, your illu….

If outrageous imagination is the wine of madness, then come fill my cup..