When you stay present with your children, that’s where abundance is. And when you stay out of their business, that’s where everything you deserve in life is. When you’re in presence, there’s no story, and you are abundance. And you come to trust that space so often that you just eventually hang out as that, because there is nothing that can move you out of it, not even a perceived child or a perceived anything.
Do you know anyone who hasn't changed his mind? This door was a tree, then it will be firewood for someone, then it will return to air and earth. We're all like that, constantly changing. It's simply honest to report that you've changed your mind when you have. When you're afraid of what people will think if you speak honestly, that's where you become confused.
Interpretation
What this quote means
This quote emphasizes the inevitability of change in our lives and the importance of being honest about our evolving beliefs.
Byron Katie reflects on the nature of change, suggesting that it is a fundamental aspect of life and identity. The metaphor of the door, which transforms from a tree to firewood to eventually returning to nature, illustrates the cycle of transformation. Katie encourages honesty about our personal changes and warns against the confusion that arises from fear of others' judgments. Embracing change and expressing our true thoughts fosters clarity and authenticity.
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In practice
Example use cases
During a team meeting, one could share this quote to highlight the importance of adapting to new ideas.
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