The greatest pride, or the greatest despondency, is the greatest ignorance of one's self.
Baruch SpinozaRead
If anyone conceives, that an object of his love joins itself to another with closer bonds of friendship than he himself has attained to, he will be affected with hatred towards the loved object and with envy towards his rival.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Feeling jealousy or hatred towards a loved one can arise when they bond more closely with someone else.
In this quote, Baruch Spinoza explores the complex emotions that can arise in relationships, particularly when love is intertwined with jealousy. When someone perceives that their loved one shares a more profound connection with another person, it can trigger feelings of resentment and envy, highlighting the human tendency to feel threatened by perceived rivals in affection and intimacy.
Themes
LoveJealousyEnvyRelationshipsFriendship
In practice
Example use cases
This quote can be used in a discussion about the complexities of love and friendship.
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