"No" is a word that must never be negotiated, because the person who chooses not to hear it is trying to control you... Declining to hear "no" is a …

- Gavin De Becker

It is understandable that the perspectives of men and women on safety are so different - men and women live in different worlds. [...] At core, men a…

- Gavin De Becker

I've successfully lobbied and testified for stalking laws in several states, but I would trade them all for a high school class that would teach youn…

- Gavin De Becker

We must learn and then teach our children that niceness does not equal goodness. Niceness is a decision, a strategy of social interaction; it is not …

- Gavin De Becker

Only human beings can look directly at something, have all the information they need to make an accurate prediction, perhaps even momentarily make th…

- Gavin De Becker

You have the gift of a brilliant internal guardian that stands ready to warn you of hazards and guide you through risky situations.

- Gavin De Becker

Most men fear getting laughed at or humiliated by a romantic prospect while most women fear rape and death.

- Gavin De Becker

When a baby is born the mother in particular enters into a new larger relationship with the world. She has become connected to all people. She is par…

- Gavin De Becker

Niceness is a decision, a strategy of social interaction; it is not a character trait.

- Gavin De Becker