We learn best to listen to our own voices if we are listening at the same time to other women-whose stories, for all our differences, turn out, if we listen well, to be our stories also.
Barbara DemingRead
We learn best to listen to our own voices if we are listening at the same time to other women - whose stories, for all our differences, turn out, if we listen well, to be our stories also.
Interpretation
What this quote means
We deepen our understanding of ourselves by listening to the experiences of others, particularly women.
This quote from Barbara Deming highlights the importance of listening to the stories and experiences of women to cultivate a better understanding of our own identities. It suggests that while we may have different backgrounds and viewpoints, there are shared experiences and insights that connect us, which enrich our personal learning and growth.
Themes
ListeningStoriesWomenIdentityConnection
In practice
Example use cases
This quote can be shared in a women's empowerment workshop to emphasize the strength found in shared narratives.
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All quotes →What is the revolution that we need? We need to dissolve the lie that some people have a right to think of other people as their property. And we need at last to form a circle that includes us all, in which all of us are seen as equal... We do not belong to the other, but our lives are linked; we belong in a circle of others.
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