There's an old saying: 'No piece of writing is ever finished, it's just abandoned.' But my own rule is: No piece of work is done until you want to kill everyone involved in the publishing process, especially yourself.
My books are always about somebody who is taken from aloneness and isolation - often elevated loneliness - to community. It may be a denigrated community that is filthy and poor, but they are not alone; they are with people.
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What this quote means
The quote emphasizes the importance of community and connection for individuals facing loneliness, regardless of the community's conditions.
In this quote, Chuck Palahniuk highlights the transformative power of community for individuals who experience loneliness and isolation. He acknowledges that even communities that may appear flawed or impoverished provide a sense of belonging and connection, which is vital for human well-being. The transition from being alone to being part of a group signifies the intrinsic human need for companionship and support, reinforcing the idea that no matter the circumstances, human connection can alleviate the weight of solitude.
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In a speech about the importance of social support during difficult times.
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If you knew that your life was merely a phase or short, short segment of your entire existence, how would you live? Knowing nothing 'real' was at risk, what would you do? You'd live a gigantic, bold, fun, dazzling life. You know you would. That's what the ghosts want us to do - all the exciting things they no longer can.
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Choose to be in close proximity to people who are empowering, who appeal to your sense of connection to intention, who see the greatness in you, who feel connected to God, who live a life that gives evidence that Spirit has found celebration through them.
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We meet God through entering into a relationship both of dependance on Jesus as our Saviour and Friend and of discipleship to Him as our Lord and Master.