Do not live with a vocation that is harmful to humans and nature. Do not invest in companies that deprive others of their chance to live. Select a vocation that helps realise your ideal of compassion.
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If you do not know how to take care of yourself, and the violence in you, then you will not be able to take care of others. You must have love and patience before you can truly listen to your partner or child. If you are irritated you cannot listen. You have to know how to breath mindfully, embrace your irritation and transform it. Offer ONLY understand and compassion to your partner or child - This is the true practice of love.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Taking care of yourself is essential to effectively care for others with love and compassion.
This quote emphasizes the importance of self-care and emotional regulation as prerequisites for nurturing and supporting others. It suggests that without understanding our own emotions, especially negative ones like irritation, we cannot be fully present and attentive to those we love. By practicing patience and mindfulness, we cultivate a capacity to listen and respond with compassion, which is essential for healthy relationships.
Themes
Self-CareCompassionMindfulnessRelationshipsLove
In practice
Example use cases
In a workshop on emotional intelligence, this quote can illustrate the importance of self-awareness.
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