We aren't the things we collect, acquire, read. We are, for as long as we are here, only love. The things we loved. The people we loved. And these, I think these really do live on.
Gabrielle ZevinRead
I wish I could tell you to always follow your heart, but I think it is bad advice. You have a heart, yes, it is true, but also a brain and also a soul. I've come to believe that we love with our brains as much as our hearts. Real Love is not just instinct, but intent...... From year to year, you may not always be the same Jane. This is perfectly normal. A Jane is many Janes in a lifetime.
Interpretation
What this quote means
True love requires both emotional and intellectual commitment rather than instinct alone.
This quote emphasizes the complexity of love, suggesting that it is not solely driven by emotions or instincts. It highlights the importance of rational thought and intentionality in cultivating genuine connections, acknowledging that individuals evolve over time and that love must adapt to those changes. Therefore, real love involves a balance of feelings, intentions, and the recognition that one may grow and change throughout their life.
Themes
LoveHeartBrainSoulIntentGrowth
In practice
Example use cases
This quote is perfect for a wedding speech emphasizing the importance of commitment and understanding in relationships.
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