Speak the truth, do not yield to anger; give, if thou art asked for little; by these three steps thou wilt go near the gods.
The demands that good people make are upon themselves; Those that bad people make are upon others.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Good individuals hold themselves accountable, while those with bad intentions impose their demands on others.
This quote by Confucius illustrates the fundamental difference in the behavior and expectations of good versus bad individuals. Good people tend to set high standards for themselves, striving for self-improvement and accountability, whereas bad people often shift their responsibilities to others, demanding more from others without fulfilling their own obligations. This reflects a deeper philosophical principle regarding morality and individual responsibility.
Themes
In practice
Example use cases
In a discussion about personal growth, this quote can emphasize the importance of self-responsibility.
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All quotes βEarnest in practicing the ordinary virtues, and careful in speaking about them, if, in his practice, he has anything defective, the superior man dares not but exert himself; and if, in his words, he has any excess, he dares not allow himself such license.
When you see a good person, think of becoming like her/him. When you see someone not so good, reflect on your own weak points.
Never give a sword to a man who can't dance.
The superior man is distressed by the limitations of his ability; he is not distressed by the fact that men do not recognize the ability that he has.
Success depends upon previous preparation, and without such preparation there is sure to be failure.
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