S and M is only the expression in the bedroom of an oppressive-submissive relation which can happen also in the kitchen or at the factory, can happen between people of any gender. There is obviously something titillating about these relationships, but it isn't the sexual components that makes them ugly, they're uglier elsewhere. Nothing sexual is depraved. Only cruelty is depraved, and that's another matter.
'I hate discussions of feminism that end up with who does the dishes,' she said. So do I. But at the end, there are always the damned dishes.
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What this quote means
The quote criticizes discussions about feminism that reduce the conversation to domestic duties. It emphasizes the importance of acknowledging underlying issues despite the trivial arguments.
Marilyn French's quote reflects the frustration with how feminist discussions can often devolve into mundane topics, like household chores, instead of addressing the deeper societal issues related to gender equality. She notes that while these discussions may seem trivial, they often encapsulate the persistent and tangible responsibilities that women face, highlighting the ongoing struggle for genuine equality beyond surface-level conversations.
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Example use cases
This quote could be used during a panel discussion on gender roles to highlight the need for deeper conversations.
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