I suppose even when I was growing up, I noticed I was most happy when I was absorbed in something, lost in the moment and forgot the time, whether was conversation, movie, or a game I was playing. That was my definition of happiness. And I was least happy when I was all over the place, distracted and restless.
Interpretation
True happiness comes from being fully engaged in the moment rather than being distracted and restless.
Pico Iyer reflects on his understanding of happiness, emphasizing that it is found in moments of deep absorption in activities that captivate his attention, whether that's through conversation, movies, or games. He contrasts this with times of distraction and restlessness, suggesting that true contentment arises from being fully present and engaged with the task at hand.
In practice
During a motivational speech about finding joy in life, one could use this quote to illustrate the importance of being present in the moment.
Quitting, for me, means not giving up, but moving on; changing direction not because something doesn’t agree with you, but because you don’t agree with something. It’s not a complaint, in other words, but a positive choice, and not a stop in one’s journey, but a step in a better direction. Quitting-whether a job or a habit-means taking a turn so as to be sure you’re still moving in the direction of your dreams.
I think one reason, obviously, that I spend so much time in one place is that I've been lucky enough to travel a lot, and now there are other different, invisible trains that are more interesting to me.
I've never meditated in my life. I don't practice yoga nor any religion. I'm a tourist on the realm of stillness.
We travel to open our hearts and eyes and learn more about the world than our newspapers will accommodate.
I'm no Buddhist monk, and I can't say I'm in love with renunciation in itself, or traveling an hour or more to print out an article I've written, or missing out on the N.B.A. Finals. But at some point, I decided that, for me at least, happiness arose out of all I didn't want or need, not all I did.
The one thing perhaps that technology hasn't always given us is a sense of how to make the wisest use of technology.
The one thing that can solve most of our problems is dancing.
He who has felt the deepest grief is best able to experience supreme happiness.
It is amazing what one ray of sunshine can do for a man!
We’ve all heard of Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross’ five stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. In contrast, I realized, happiness has four stages. To eke out the most happiness from an experience we must: anticipate it, savor it as it unfolds, express happiness, and recall a happy memory.
Happiness always looks small while you hold it in your hands, but let it go, and you learn at once how big and precious it is.
The constant happiness is curiosity.
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