A dogmatic belief in objective value is necessary to the very idea of a rule which is not tyranny or an obedience which is not slavery.
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Excess of love, did ye say? There was no excess, there was defect. She loved her son too little, not too much. If she had loved him more there'd be no difficulty.
Interpretation
What this quote means
This quote emphasizes that a lack of love, rather than an excess of it, can lead to difficulties in relationships.
C. S. Lewis is arguing that the troubles in a relationship stem from insufficient love rather than an overabundance of it. The statement reflects on the idea that true affection is vital and that more love could resolve conflicts, especially in the context of a parent-child relationship. It suggests that a true excess of love is not possible; instead, shortcomings in love are what create obstacles in connection and understanding.
Themes
LoveRelationshipsParentingAffectionDifficulty
In practice
Example use cases
This quote can be used during a parenting workshop to discuss the importance of unconditional love.
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