The fundamental defect of fathers, in our competitive society, is that they want their children to be a credit to them.
Interpretation
Fathers often desire their children to reflect positively on them, instead of allowing them to forge their own paths.
In this quote, Bertrand Russell highlights a significant issue within parental relationships, particularly between fathers and their children. He argues that in a competitive society, many fathers place undue pressure on their children to succeed in ways that reflect well on the fathers themselves. This desire for children to be a 'credit' can hinder the child's personal growth and independence, as they may feel compelled to meet their father's expectations rather than pursue their own passions or identities.
In practice
In a speech about parenting at a local community center, one might quote this to discuss the importance of supporting children's individuality.
St. Paul introduced an entirely novel view of marriage, that it existed primarily to prevent the sin of fornication. It is just as if one were to maintain that the sole reason for baking bread is to prevent people from stealing cake.
Freedom comes only to those who no longer ask of life that it shall yield them any of those personal goods that are subject to the mutations of time.
Of these austerer virtues the love of truth is the chief, and in mathematics, more than elsewhere, the love of truth may find encouragement for waning faith. Every great study is not only an end in itself, but also a means of creating and sustaining a lofty habit of mind; and this purpose should be kept always in view throughout the teaching and learning of mathematics.
At all times, except when a monarch could enforce his will, war has been facilitated by the fact that vigorous males, confident of victory, enjoyed it, while their females admired them for their prowess.
Moreover, the attitude that one ought to believe such and such a proposition, independently of the question whether there is evidence in its favor, is an attitude which produces hostility to evidence and causes us to close our minds to every fact that does not suit our prejudices.
Extreme hopes are born from extreme misery.
When he died, I went about like a ragged crow telling strangers, "My father died, my father died." My indiscretion embarrassed me, but I could not help it. Without my father on his Delhi rooftop, why was I here? Without him there, why should I go back? Without that ache between us, what was I made of?
So mothers have God's license to be missed.
As I contemplate the kind of future I want for children-my own and other people's-I believe we must look inward to God for guidance and strength and backward to draw on the values and legacies of our families, ancestors, and communities.
My family was always present when I needed them and sometimes felt even stronger emotions than me.
He is her glory. Any woman could say it. For every one of them, God is in her child. Mothers of great men must have been familiar with this feeling, but then, all women are mothers of great men -- it isn't their fault if life disappoints them later.
I'm a 21st-century kid trapped in a 19th-century family.
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