Do you want to be a gentleman, to spite her or to gain her over? Because, if it is to spite her, I should think - but you know best - that might be better and more independently done by caring nothing for her words. And if it is to gain her over, I should think - but you know best - she was not worth gaining over.
Interpretation
The quote questions the motives behind wanting to be a gentleman, suggesting that genuine intentions are crucial in relationships.
In this quote, Charles Dickens explores the complexity of motivations in relationships, particularly regarding the desire to be a gentleman towards someone. He argues that if one's intention is merely to spite someone, it would be more honorable to disregard their opinions altogether. Conversely, if the aim is to win someone's affection, one must consider whether that person is truly worth the effort. This highlights the importance of authenticity and self-reflection in our interactions with others.
In practice
This quote can be used in a discussion about the importance of genuine intentions in dating.
I recollected one story there was in the village, how that on a certain night in the year (it might be that very night for anything I knew), all the dead people came out of the ground and sat at the heads of their own graves till morning.
A silent look of affection and regard when all other eyes are turned coldly away-the consciousness that we possess the sympathy and affection of one being when all others have deserted us-is a hold, a stay, a comfort, in the deepest affliction, which no wealth could purchase, or power bestow.
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The first couple of times, he simply stayed - a stranger to kill the aloneness. A few nights after that, he whispered “Shhh, I’m here, its alright.” After three weeks, he held her. Trust was accumulated quickly, due primarily to the brute strength of the man’s gentleness, his thereness.
Do unto others 20% better than you would expect them to do unto you, to correct for subjective error.
Forgiving does not usually happen at once. It is a process, sometimes a long one, especially when it comes to wounds gouged deep. And we must expect some lapses...some people seem to manage to finish off forgiving in one swoop of the heart. But when they do, you can bet they are forgiving flesh wounds. Deeper cuts take more time and can use a second coat.
I’m not like the rest of you; I never made any plans about what I’d do when I grew up; I never thought of being married, as you did. I couldn’t seem to imagine myself anything but stupid little Beth, trotting about at home, of no use anywhere but there. I never wanted to go away, and the hard part now is leaving you all. I’m not afraid, but it seems as if I should be homesick for you even in heaven.
And this was the price you paid for sleeping together.
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