The great secret of a successful marriage is to treat all disasters as incidents and none of the incidents as disasters.
Interpretation
Successful marriages involve managing challenges by keeping perspectives balanced and not overreacting to minor issues.
This quote by Harold Nicolson emphasizes the importance of maintaining a healthy perspective in a marriage. It suggests that couples should not blow small problems out of proportion but instead view them as mere incidents that can be managed, thus fostering a resilient and harmonious relationship.
In practice
During a wedding speech, to highlight the importance of perspective in marriage.
We don't want to promote any system that treats the fact that an individual is LGBT as a personality disorder. And anything that perpetuates that perception is harmful - not only to that member of the community but the entire community.
While having friends of color is better than not having them, it doesn't change the overall system or prevent racism from surfacing in our relationships. The societal default is white superiority, and we are fed a steady diet of it 24/7. To not actively seek to interrupt racism is to internalize and accept it.
Isn't that the problem? That women have been swindled for centuries into substituting adornment for love, fashion (as it were) for passion?
I know I have a very self-destructive tendency since my mother died, I have got to be honest.
I remember talking to someone early on after I was sober about how I suddenly felt awkward at parties. They said, 'Well, you're supposed to. Everyone feels awkward at parties.' It's an appropriate feeling to feel.
...Singles, too, must see the penultimate status of marriage. If single Christians don't develop a deeply fulfilling love relationship with Jesus, they will put too much pressure on their DREAM of marriage, and that will create pathology in their lives as well.
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