Grief, of course, is not something that operates according to a specific time frame, and it seems cold to suggest otherwise. Yet when we do not grasp that God is present in pain, we eventually insist on victory or, worse, blame the sufferer for not "getting over it" fast enough. This is more than a failure to extend compassion; it's an exercise in cruelty.
Interpretation
Grief is a personal journey that does not adhere to a timeline, and misunderstanding it can lead to cruel judgments.
This quote highlights the complexity of grief and the often misguided societal expectations regarding how individuals should process their pain. It emphasizes the necessity of recognizing the presence of a divine compassion in suffering, and warns against the insensitivity that arises when we impose a timeline on someone else’s mourning, labeling them unworthy or weak if they do not conform to our arbitrary standards of recovery.
In practice
In a eulogy, to offer comfort and understanding about the grieving process.
Christianity is not about good people getting better. If anything, it is good news for bad people coping with their failure to be good. The heart of the Christian faith is Good News, not good advice, good technique, or good behavior. Too many people have walked away from the church, not because they’re walking away from Jesus, but because the church has walked away from Jesus.
Grace is love that seeks you out when you have nothing to give in return. Grace is love coming at you that has nothing to do with you. Grace is being loved when you are unlovable.
Christianity is not about good people getting better. It is good news for bad people coping with their failure to be good.
Legalism says God will love us if we change. The gospel says God will change us because He loves us.
Every returning New Yorker asks the question: Is this still my city? I have a ready answer, cloaked in obstinate despair: It is. And if it's not, I will love it all the more. I will love it to the point where it becomes mine again.
Without being forgiven, released from the consequences of what we have done, our capacity to act would, as it were, be confined to one single deed from which we could never recover; we would remain the victims of its consequences forever.
The cynic says, "One man can't do anything". I say, "Only one man can do anything."
I get drawn in when I feel there is something deep and mysterious going on beneath the surface of something.
Feminist: A person who believes in the social, political and economic equality of the sexes.
Time expands and contracts. When it expands, it’s like pitch: it folds people in its arms and holds them forever in its embrace. It doesn’t let us go so easily. Sometimes you go back again to the place you’ve just come from, stop and close your eyes, and realize that not a second has passed, and time just leaves you there, stranded, in the darkness
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