Always' was a promise! How can you just break the promise?" "Sometimes people don't always understand the promises they're making when they make them," I said. Isaac shot me a look. "Right, of course. But you keep the promise anyway. That's what love is. Love is keeping the promise anyway. Don't you believe in true love?" I didn't answer. I didn't have an answer. But I thought that if true love did exist, that was a pretty good definition of it.
If you were to go, and hopefully someday you will, you would see a lot of paintings of dead people. You'd see Jesus on the cross, and you'd see a dude get stabbed in the neck, and you'd see people dying at sea and in battle and a parade of martyrs. But Not. One. Single. Cancer. Kid. Nobody biting it from the plague or smallpox or yellow fever or whatever, because there is no glory in illness. There is no meaning to it. There is no honor in dying of.
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What this quote means
This quote reflects on how society often glorifies certain types of death while disregarding the suffering from illness, suggesting a lack of meaning in death caused by disease.
In this quote, John Green highlights the stark contrast between the glorified deaths depicted in art and the often overlooked deaths from illness. He argues that society tends to romanticize certain deaths, such as those of martyrs, while ignoring the painful realities of dying from diseases like cancer or plague, implying that these deaths, devoid of heroism and dignity, lack societal recognition and meaning.
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This quote could be used in a discussion about the representation of death in art and culture.
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