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Humans punish themselves endlessly for not being what they believe they should be. They become very self-abusive, and they use other people to abuse themselves as well.
Miguel Angel Ruiz
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Interpretation

What this quote means

People often inflict pain on themselves for not meeting their own expectations.

This quote by Miguel Angel Ruiz highlights the detrimental effects of unrealistic self-expectations, which can lead to self-abuse and the projection of negative feelings onto others. It reflects on the human tendency to hold ourselves to high standards, causing unnecessary suffering and harming our relationships with others as we may inadvertently use them as a means of punishing ourselves.

Themes

Self-AbuseExpectationsSufferingRelationshipsSelf-Punishment

In practice

Example use cases

During a workshop on self-compassion, this quote can be shared to emphasize the importance of accepting oneself.

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