Why can't women get along? Because we're afraid. We're afraid to be vulnerable. We're afraid to be soft. We're afraid to be hurt. But most of all, we're afraid of our power. So we become controlling and aggressive and vicious.
Iyanla VanzantRead
It takes a lot more courage to let something go than it does to hang on to it, trying to make it better. Letting go doesn't mean ignoring a situation. Letting go means accepting what is, exactly as it is, without fear, resistance, or a struggle for control.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Letting go requires more strength than holding on, as it involves acceptance without resistance.
This quote by Iyanla Vanzant emphasizes the bravery required to release attachments and accept situations as they are. Hanging on often appears easier because it is driven by fear and the desire for control, while letting go entails facing reality, which can be much more challenging.
Themes
CourageLetting GoAcceptanceControlFear
In practice
Example use cases
In a motivational speech about overcoming challenges in life.
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