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Lovers should not separate from each other after making love without admiring each other, without being conquered as well as conquering, so that no feeling of satiation or desolation arises nor the horrid feeling of misusing or having been misused.
Hermann Hesse
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What this quote means

The bond between lovers should be cherished after intimacy, ensuring mutual admiration and respect.

In this quote, Hermann Hesse emphasizes the importance of emotional connection and mutual respect between lovers after physical intimacy. He suggests that lovers should not simply part ways after an intimate encounter without acknowledging and appreciating one another, as this can lead to feelings of emptiness and misuse in the relationship. It highlights the need for emotional fulfillment and understanding to prevent desolation or the feeling of having been exploited.

Themes

LoveIntimacyAdmirationsMutual RespectRelationships

In practice

Example use cases

In a wedding speech to emphasize the importance of admiration and respect in a marriage.

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