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A man long accustomed to admire his wife in general, seldom pauses to admire her in a particular gown or attitude, unless his attention is directed to her by the appreciative gaze of another man.
Willa Cather
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Interpretation

What this quote means

People often overlook the uniqueness of their partners until someone else expresses appreciation.

Willa Cather's quote suggests that familiarity can blind us to the particular qualities we once admired in our partners. When we are exposed to admiration from another, we become more aware of and appreciate the specific attributes that make our loved ones special, reinforcing the importance of recognition and external validation in relationships.

Themes

AppreciationRelationshipsAdmirationRecognitionLove

In practice

Example use cases

During a wedding toast, a friend might quote this to highlight how admiration evolves in relationships.

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