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To obtain a man's opinion of you, make him mad.
Oliver Wendell Holmes Sr.
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Interpretation

What this quote means

Getting someone's true feelings often requires provoking them.

This quote suggests that in order to truly understand how someone feels about you, it can be effective to elicit an emotional response from them, particularly anger. Through intense emotions, the facade of politeness or indifference may fall away, revealing genuine opinions and sentiments that might otherwise remain hidden.

Themes

RelationshipsOpinionsAngerTruthEmotions

In practice

Example use cases

During a discussion about personal feelings, one might quote this to highlight the complexities of understanding relationships.

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