Once it's established that we are a team, I can demand of you and expect you to demand of me. Life without pain is an addiction and the fantasy of pe…

- Carl Whitaker

When there are kids involved, there's no such thing as divorce.

- Carl Whitaker

If we can abandon our missionary zeal we have less chance of being eaten by cannibals.

- Carl Whitaker

Shame occurs when you haven't been able to get away with the 'who' you want people to think you are.

- Carl Whitaker

As much as I would miss my wife if she were to die, I would miss what we are together even more. Our "we-ness," our "us-ness."

- Carl Whitaker

There are no individuals in the world only fragments of families

- Carl Whitaker

Every marriage is a battle between two families struggling to reproduce themselves.

- Carl Whitaker

I have a theory that theories are destructive.

- Carl Whitaker