Among writers, if you don't have a therapist, it's like saying you don't keep a journal or use the thesaurus. It's a natural accompaniment.
Amy TanRead
I learned to forgive myself, and that enabled me to forgive my mother as a person.
Interpretation
Forgiving oneself can lead to greater compassion and forgiveness towards others.
In this quote, Amy Tan emphasizes the importance of self-forgiveness as a crucial step in the process of forgiving others. By coming to terms with our own mistakes and shortcomings, we open ourselves up to understanding and accepting the imperfections of those around us, creating more harmonious and compassionate relationships.
In practice
During a workshop on emotional healing, I shared this quote to illustrate the power of self-forgiveness.
Among writers, if you don't have a therapist, it's like saying you don't keep a journal or use the thesaurus. It's a natural accompaniment.
Her education only made her unhappy thinking about it - that no matter how much she changed her life, she could not change the world that surrounded her.
You can't have intentions without consequences. The question is, who pays for the consequences? Saving fish from drowning. Same thing. Who’s saved? Who’s not?
I am fascinated by language in daily life: the way it can evoke an emotion, a visual image, a complex idea, or a simple truth.
Even if I had expected it, even if I had known what I was going to do with my life, it would have knocked the wind out of me. When something that violent hits you, you can't help but lose your balance and fall. And after you pick yourself up, you realize you can't trust anybody to save you- not your husband, not your mother, not God. So what can you do to stop yourself from tilting and falling all over again?
And for all those years, we never talked about the disaster at the recital or my terrible accusations afterward at the piano bench. All that remained unchecked, like a betrayal that was now unbreakable. So I never found a way to ask her why she had hoped something so large that failure was inevitable. And even worse, I never asked her what frightened me the most: Why had she given up hope?
Marriage is like life - it is a field of battle, not a bed of roses.
In so many ways, my soccer career taught me about seeing the value of all people, whether or not society sees it first. Relationships with people who are perceived to be 'different' have taught me the same lesson.
I've felt like an outsider all my life. It comes from my mother, who always felt like an outsider in my father's family. She was a powerful woman, and she motivated my father.
I do not suffer from Autism, but I do suffer from the way you treat me.
May was young and beautiful, we were legally married, but she was caught in the prison of my skin.
...and when you’ve known me longer, you’ll learn that I mean everything I say.” “Even the lies?” “Especially the lies.
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