Life with most teenagers was like having a low-grade bladder infection. It hurts, but you had to tough it out.
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What if we never 'get over' certain deaths, or our childhoods? What if the idea that we should have by now, or will, is a great palace lie? What if we're not supposed to? What if it takes a life time...?
Interpretation
What this quote means
This quote challenges the notion of moving on from loss or past experiences, suggesting that it's natural to carry them throughout life.
Anne Lamott's quote explores the complex relationship we have with grief and our pasts, proposing that the expectation to 'get over' certain painful experiences may be misleading. Instead, she invites us to consider that some memories and losses remain with us, shaping our identity and understanding over a lifetime, and that perhaps this is a part of the human experience rather than a problem to overcome.
Themes
GriefLossMemoriesChildhoodAcceptance
In practice
Example use cases
During a memorial service, I shared this quote to highlight the ongoing nature of grief.
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