Memory cuts both ways; it can either provide you with tremendous strength and a foundation to carry you through your life, or it can be a demon that just ruins your present and your future because you can’t let go of the past.
Cutting pain was a different flavor of hurt. It made it easier not to think about having my body and my family and my life stolen, made it easier not to care... -Wintergirls
Interpretation
What this quote means
The quote reflects on the complexities of coping with emotional pain by turning to physical pain as a distraction.
In this quote from 'Wintergirls' by Laurie Halse Anderson, the narrator expresses the experience of using self-harm as a way to cope with deeper emotional turmoil. By engaging in a physical act that brings pain, it becomes a means of escaping the anguish associated with losing one's identity, family, and life as they once knew it. This highlights the struggle of individuals dealing with profound loss and the sometimes devastating methods they use to manage their suffering.
Themes
In practice
Example use cases
This quote could be used in a mental health awareness workshop to discuss coping mechanisms.
More from Laurie Halse Anderson
All quotes →Here stands a girl clutching a knife. There is grease on the stove, blood in the air, and angry words piled in the corners. We are trained not to see it, not to see any of it. . . . Someone just ripped off my eyelids.
This girl shivers and crawls under the covers with all her clothes on and falls into an overdue library book, a faerie story with rats and marrow and burning curses. The sentences build a fence around her, a Times Roman 10-point barricade, to keep the thorny voices in her head from getting too close.
A breath of steam trickles out, filled with the sobs of a grown woman breaking into girl-sized pieces.
I open a paperclip and scratch it across the inside of my left wrist. Pitiful. If a suicide attempt is a cry for help, then what is this. A whimper, a peep? I draw little window cracks of blood, etching line after line until it stops hurting.
If I can write a book that will help the world make a little more sense to a teen, then that's why I was put on the planet.
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