The one ironclad rule is that I have to try. I have to walk into my writing room and pick up my pen every weekday morning
Anne TylerRead
People imagine that missing a loved one works kind of like missing cigarettes,' he said. 'The first day is really hard but the next day is less hard and so forth, easier and easier the longer you go on. But instead it's like missing water. Every day, you notice the person's absence more.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Missing someone you love grows more intense over time rather than easier.
This quote highlights the profound nature of love and loss, suggesting that the absence of a loved one does not diminish over time, but rather deepens the sense of longing. Unlike the gradual loss of a physical craving, such as for cigarettes, the emotional pain of missing someone feels more like a struggle against thirst, where the absence becomes increasingly apparent and impactful as time passes.
Themes
LossAbsenceLoveLongingGrief
In practice
Example use cases
In a speech about grief, one could use this quote to illustrate the deep emotional impact of losing someone.
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And she thought what a clean, simple life she would have led if it weren't for love.
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