The only perfect love to be found on earth is not sexual love, which is riddled with hostility and insecurity, but the wordless commitment of families, which takes as its model mother-love. This is not to say that fathers have no place, for father-love, with its driving for self-improvement and discipline, is also essential to survival, but that uncorrected father-love, father-love as it were practiced by both parents, is a way to annihilation.
Interpretation
The quote emphasizes that true perfection in love lies within family bonds rather than romantic love, highlighting the importance of unconditional maternal love.
Germaine Greer's quote draws a distinction between different types of love, asserting that the most perfect form of love is found within familial relationships, particularly through the unconditional love of a mother. While acknowledging the significance of fatherly love, she warns that unbalanced or uncorrected fatherly love can lead to negative consequences. This suggests that love in its ideal form is characterized by commitment and nurturance, rather than conflict and insecurity often found in romantic relationships.
In practice
During a wedding speech, one might reflect on the unconditional love of family as foundational to a successful marriage.
It is often falsely assumed, even by feminists, that sexuality is the enemy of the female who really wants to develop these aspects of her personality, and this is perhaps the most misleading aspect of movements like the National Organization of Women. It was not the insistence upon her sex that weakened the American woman student's desire to make something of her education, but the insistence upon a passive sexual role
A library is a place where you can lose your innocence without losing your virginity.
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Probably the only place where a man can feel really secure is in a maximum security prison, except for the imminent threat of release.
I love iconoclasts. I love individuals. I love people that are true to themselves, whatever the cost.
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But till we are built like angels, with hammer and chisel and pen, we will work for ourself and a woman, forever and ever, Amen.
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