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The pleasures of love are always in proportion to our fears.
Stendhal
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Interpretation

What this quote means

The joy we derive from love is directly linked to the anxieties we have about it.

Stendhal's quote suggests that our experiences of love are deeply intertwined with our fears and insecurities. The more we are afraid to lose someone or afraid of being vulnerable, the more intensely we might feel the pleasures and joys of love, indicating that love can be a source of both bliss and trepidation.

Themes

LovePleasureFearsRelationshipsEmotional

In practice

Example use cases

During a wedding toast, one might say this quote to highlight the depth of love's experience.

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