Men rarely worry about using or being used because all relationships work that way. A man perceives himself as owning and being owned by a woman. 'Use' is a dirty word only when there's an imbalance in the relationship.
Warren FarrellRead
I define power as 'control over one's life.' A balanced life is far superior to the male definition of power: earning money someone else spends while he dies sooner.
Interpretation
True power comes from self-control and a balanced life rather than material wealth.
Warren Farrell emphasizes that real power lies in the ability to govern one's own life and achieve balance, rather than conforming to a traditional male-driven definition of power which often focuses on financial success at the expense of health and well-being. He contrasts the superficial allure of monetary gain with the deeper fulfillment and longevity that comes from leading a well-rounded life.
In practice
During a leadership workshop, this quote can be used to discuss the importance of personal well-being over mere financial success.
Men rarely worry about using or being used because all relationships work that way. A man perceives himself as owning and being owned by a woman. 'Use' is a dirty word only when there's an imbalance in the relationship.
We always look at the 'Fortune 500,' and we say, men in power, but we don't look at the glass cellar as opposed to the glass ceiling and say, men also are the homeless, men are also the ones that are the garbage collectors. Men are also the ones dying in construction sites that aren't properly supervised for safety hazards.
So long as you create laws that define women as victims, as creatures that demand protection, that need bodyguards, you are going to perpetuate the very worst of our sexist past.
Is there discrimination against women? Yes. There's no denying that the old boys' network is alive and well. But there's also discrimination against men.
The key to wealth is not what we earn. It is in what is spent on us.
Throughout my life I have always been amazed that people couldn't listen to other people, that they couldn't hear their best intent, that there seemed to be an enormous need to demonize.
The Pythagoreans degrade impious men into brutes and, if one is to believe Empedocles, even into plants.
Death never takes the wise man by surprise, he is always ready to go.
But nothing in India is identifiable, the mere asking of a question causes it to disappear or to merge in something else.
Time spent arguing with the faithful is, oddly enough, almost never wasted.
A society that admits misery, a humanity that admits war, seem to me an inferior society and a debased humanity; it is a higher society and a more elevated humanity at which I am aiming - a society without kings, a humanity without barriers.
We've all got both light and dark inside us. What matters is the part we choose to act on. That's who we really are.
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