The problem with idealizing love is that it causes us to develop unrealistic expectations about what love actually is and what it can do for us.
Interpretation
Idealizing love leads to unrealistic expectations that can lead to disappointment.
Mark Manson emphasizes that when we put love on a pedestal, we often create false images of what love should be. This idealization can lead to disappointment when real love fails to meet those unrealistic expectations, resulting in disillusionment in our relationships.
In practice
Using this quote in a speech about healthy relationships to encourage realistic expectations.
Whereas a lot of Buddhism concerns itself with stages of enlightenment, various precepts and moral codes, and even power structures and hierarchies, Zen is just like, 'Shut up, sit down, and observe your thoughts - oh, and by the way, what you perceive as you' doesn't actually exist.' I loved the minimalist approach of it.
I think people who become compulsive about fitness or eating right, a lot of the time it's out of fear that they're going to lose control or that they're not good enough, so I think anything done out of fear or motivated by fear is often unhealthy.
Many people come to self-help material because they feel like something is wrong with them or the way they are. The problem is that anything that tells you how to improve your life is also implying that there is something inherently wrong with you the way you are.
The first and perhaps most important thing to realize about being happier in life is to stop trying to be so happy in life.
Writing/reading is like visiting another person's brain. And a short book or article is like a short stay. You come in, have a coffee, talk about the weather or sports, and then move on.
I think humility - which I think is a very good value to adopt - is basically an extension of understanding your own ignorance.
Then let yourself love all that you take delight in_x000D_ _x000D_ Accept yourself whole, accept the heritage_x000D_ _x000D_ That shaped you and is passed on from age to age_x000D_ _x000D_ Down to your entity. Remain mysterious;_x000D_ _x000D_ Rather than be pure, accept yourself as numerous.
In the end, love wins. It does win. We know it wins. When a person dies, love isnβt turned off like a faucet. It is an amazingly resilient part of us.
And it's wrong of you to think that love leaves room for nothing else. It's possible to love something and still condescend to it.
I think love is one of those things that it's only really bad because it was once good. You can't miss something that was never amazing. So, what I've learned is that even if it ends badly, it's worth it if it made you feel something, if it taught you something.
I held her, he wanted to say, and if I knew for certain that all it would take to hold her again would be to die, then I couldn't raise the gun to my head fast enough.
When you reduce a woman to writing, she makes you think of a thousand other women
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