Personal relations are the important thing for ever and ever, and not this outer life of telegrams and anger.
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Their quarrel was no more surprising than are most quarrels — inevitable at the time, incredible afterwards.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Quarrels often seem unavoidable in the moment, but may later appear unnecessary or foolish.
E. M. Forster's quote reflects on the nature of disagreements, suggesting that conflicts among individuals often arise naturally due to the circumstances at hand. In retrospect, however, these disputes can seem unreasonable and surprising, indicating a disconnect between the emotional intensity of the moment and the clarity that time provides.
Themes
QuarrelsRelationshipsDisagreementsUnderstandingPerspective
In practice
Example use cases
In a speech about conflict resolution, one might use this quote to highlight the importance of reflection after arguments.
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