We cannot fashion our children after our desires, we must have them and love them as God has given them to us.
I was, in reality, bred by my parents as my father's concubine... What we take for granted as the stability of family life may well depend on the sexual slavery of our children. What's more, this is a cynical arrangement our institutions have colluded to conceal.
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What this quote means
The quote highlights the hidden complexities and sacrifices within family structures, suggesting a critique of societal norms regarding family dynamics.
Sylvia Fraser's quote challenges the conventional perception of family stability by revealing that it may often be built upon uncomfortable truths, such as the exploitation and oppression of individuals within familial relationships. It underscores the often unseen realities that can underpin family life, illustrating how societal institutions might contribute to the normalization of such arrangements, ultimately calling for a critical reflection on familial and social structures.
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Example use cases
During a lecture on family dynamics, one could use this quote to illustrate the hidden sacrifices that families may endure.
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