[Women] tend to collect more pieces of data when they think, put them into more complex patterns, see more options and outcomes. They tend to be contextual, holistic thinkers.
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Romantic love is not an emotion. ... It's a drive. It comes from the motor of the mind, the wanting part of the mind, the craving part of the mind.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Romantic love is driven by deep psychological urges rather than just emotions.
In this quote, Helen Fisher argues that romantic love should not merely be classified as an emotion, but rather as a powerful drive that originates from our psychological needs and desires. She highlights that love is tied to fundamental cravings within our minds, suggesting it is a complex interplay of biological and psychological forces that motivate human relationships.
Themes
Romantic LoveEmotionDriveMindCraving
In practice
Example use cases
During a wedding speech to emphasize the depth of love between two people.
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