Dictators fall when they're overconfident; they stay in power when they're paranoid.
Russia, at the start of the 21st century, at least in its larger cities, very much resembled the United States of the early 1990s: being gay was no longer criminal or shameful, but it was still not a topic for polite conversation or public discussion.
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What this quote means
The quote highlights the evolving social acceptance of LGBTQ+ identities in Russia compared to the U.S. in the early 90s.
Masha Gessen's quote reflects on the changing attitudes towards LGBTQ+ identities in Russia, particularly in larger cities during the 21st century. It draws a parallel between this gradual acceptance and the situation in the United States in the early 1990s, indicating that while being gay is no longer criminalized, social stigma remains, rendering it a subject often avoided in polite conversation and public discourse.
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During a panel discussion on LGBTQ+ rights, this quote could illustrate the ongoing social challenges faced by the community.
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