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Our sadness is an energy we discharge in order to heal. …Sadness is painful. We try to avoid it. Actually discharging sadness releases the energy involved in our emotional pain. To hold it in is to freeze the pain within us. The therapeutic slogan is that grieving is the ‘healing feeling.’
Interpretation
What this quote means
Sadness is a necessary process for emotional healing.
John Bradshaw's quote emphasizes the importance of experiencing and expressing sadness as a vital part of healing from emotional pain. He suggests that rather than avoiding sadness, we should confront it, as discharging our sadness allows us to release pent-up energy and ultimately facilitates our journey toward healing. Grieving, he argues, is essential to feeling better, transforming our pain into a therapeutic process.
Themes
SadnessHealingGriefEmotional PainDischarge
In practice
Example use cases
Sharing this quote during a support group for those dealing with loss.
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