I have often wondered how it is that every man loves himself more than all the rest of men, but yet sets less value on his own opinions of himself than on the opinions of others.
Marcus AureliusRead
When you are annoyed at someone's mistake, immediately look at yourself and reflect how you also fail; for example, in thinking that good equals money, or pleasure, or a bit of fame. By being mindful of this you'll quickly forget your anger, especially if you realize that the person was under stress, and could do little else. And, if you can, find a way to alleviate that stress.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Reflecting on our own flaws can help us be more empathetic toward others' mistakes.
In this quote, Marcus Aurelius emphasizes the importance of self-reflection when faced with annoyance at others' errors. He suggests that instead of holding onto anger, we should recognize our own imperfections and consider the circumstances that may have led to the other person's mistake. By acknowledging our shared humanity and the stresses we all face, we can cultivate understanding and seek ways to support each other rather than allowing anger to fester.
Themes
Self-ReflectionEmpathyStressAngerUnderstanding
In practice
Example use cases
During a team meeting when frustrations arise over a colleague's performance, this quote can remind everyone to consider the pressures their colleagues may be under.
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