If hatred strikes you, if you get accused, thrown to the lions, you can expect one of two reactions from people who know you: some of them will join in the kill, the others will discreetly pretend to know nothing, hear nothing, so you can go right on seeing them and talking to them. That second category, discreet and tactful, those are your friends. 'Friends' in the modern sense of the term. Listen, Jean-Marc, I've known that forever.
Interpretation
True friends are those who stand by you in difficult times, while others may abandon or ignore you.
This quote by Milan Kundera highlights the essence of genuine friendship. It reflects that in times of adversity, such as being accused or facing hatred, there are two types of people: those who partake in your downfall and those who remain supportive, even if silently. The latter represent true friendship, as they provide quiet strength and loyalty when it is most needed. This distinction emphasizes the importance of recognizing and valuing those who truly care for us.
In practice
During a speech about the value of true friendships in tough times.
Which doesn't mean, of course, that I'd stopped loving her, that I'd forgotten her, or that her image had paled; on the contrary; in the form of a quiet nostalgia she remained constantly within me; I longed for her as one longs for something definitively lost.
Facts mean little compared to attitudes. To contradict rumor or sentiment is as futile as arguing against a believer's faith in the Immaculate Conception. You have simply become a victim of faith, Comrade Assistant.
While people are fairly young and the musical composition of their lives is still in its opening bars, they can go about writing it together and sharing motifs (the way Tomas and Sabina exchanged the motif of the bowler hat), but if they meet when they are older, like Franz and Sabina, their musical compositions are more or less complete, and every motif, every object, every word means something different to each of them.
Mankind's true moral test, its fundamental test (which lies deeply buried from view), consists of its attitude towards those who are at its mercy: animals. And in this respect mankind has suffered a fundamental debacle, a debacle so fundamental that all others stem from it.
To sit with a dog on a hillside on a glorious afternoon is to be back in Eden, where doing nothing was not boring - it was peace.
Sensuality is the total mobilization of the senses: an individual observes his partner intently, straining to catch every sound.
The act of quiet nighttime talking, illustrates for me more than anything else the curious alchemy of companionship.
My father and he had cemented one of those English friendships which begin by avoiding intimacies and eventually eliminate speech altogether.
I assure you that it is our desire and intention to keep the doors of consultation always and fully open. There must never be a final word between friends.
I've lost many of my best friends... I'm going to satisfy myself now, not the critics, not even my friends.
Sharing our depressions felt like having survived a war. The experience bonds you to the other person for life.
When I turned 40, I invited Johnny Cash to my party, even though I knew there was gonna be 200 people roasting a pig and wild as can be. He didn't come, but the next day, I got a bowl of chili he'd made and a note that said, 'John, I'd love to come to your party, but that would mean I would have to leave my house.'
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