The suffering of either sex - of the male who is unable, because of the way in which he was reared, to take the strong initiating or patriarchal role that is still demanded of him, or of the female who has been given too much freedom of movement as a child to stay placidly within the house as an adult - this suffering, this discrepancy, this sense of failure in an enjoined role, is the point of leverage for social change.
Interpretation
Margaret Mead highlights how societal expectations for men and women can lead to personal suffering, which can catalyze social change.
In this quote, Margaret Mead discusses the pressures that societal roles impose on both men and women, noting that men may struggle with expectations to be dominant and initiating, while women may find difficulty conforming to traditional domestic roles due to their upbringing. This shared suffering, arising from the discrepancies between individual desires and societal expectations, serves as a powerful impetus for social change, suggesting that recognizing and addressing these struggles can lead to a more equitable society.
In practice
This quote can be used in discussions about gender roles in contemporary society during a lecture.
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All social change begins with a conversation.
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